1. Respect the child's emerging physical, psychological and social space and privacy.

2. Respond to the child's questions and concerns in a thoughtful and respectful manner appropriate to the child's age and developmental stage.

3. Recognize and provide approval for the child's efficacy or accomplishments in skill areas, as well as acknowledging pro-social behavior in day-to-day life.

4. Value the child's unique talents and contributions by both praise and encouragement, while avoiding comparisons with other children.

5. Focus on the child's strengths and assets, with positive expectations.

6. Participate with the child in diverse experiences which expand general fund of knowledge, including multicultural and gender awareness.

7. Guide the child with an appropriate level of reasoned and loving discipline, emphasizing that the child is in control of their behavior and its consequences.

8. Show faith in the child's abilities by permitting appropriate levels of freedom and responsibility.

9. Be open to the child's opinions and suggestions, encourage participation in group decisions.

10. Communicate unconditional love, even in the midst of discipline.

Relate Links

• A self-esteem checklist for parents by Tom Rue, 2/17/2000
• Developing Self-Concept In Children by Tom Rue, 12/21/1991